11/08/14: Healing

Della is continuing to heal well! She still has a drain in but that will be out soon. We went to the doctor on Wednesday and Thursday for post-op and he taught me how to care for her so our next appointment is for this Monday. We lived with mom and dad for a bit but with the fleas and cats we decided it would be best to more over to our friends, John and Jordan. We lived with them just before we moved to El Salvador so we are already used to their company. We have now had a chance to unpack and eat at some of the restaurants we missed. Della gets tired easily right now, with all her healing so we haven’t had a chance to make it out too far or do too much. Yesterday, we had lunch with my grandparents which are Charlotte’s great grandparents! Sadly, I never got to meet my great grandparents. Today, Della felt up to doing a little shopping with mom and Leanna while Little Charlotte and I went over to Christina’s house. I replaced the breaks and changed the oil for extra car while Christina watched Charlotte. Now that’s done, Christina said we can borrow that car until we are able to find one we want to buy. I am still working on the job situation… Hopefully I will know something more next week.

Jordan took this picture of Charlotte

Jordan took this picture of Charlotte

My Grandma and Grandpa holding Charlotte

Mom, Dad and Charlotte

Della's Grandma and aunt

Christopher giving Charlotte a bottle

My first attempt at an origami eagle.
I made this as a gift for our surgeon.
Took about 5 hours and the design came from Origami Sequence #4

11/04/14: Surgery

Della wanted a big greasy biscuit so I went to get some breakfast. They took my money and then told me I had to wait ten minutes for it to cook… Della finished eating about 8:00. Then I took care of Charlotte while Della got ready. At 10:30, we left for our appointment with the surgeon. As we were in the waiting room waiting, I could hear the secretary making calls to all of tomorrow’s appointments. To each one she said that the surgeon had an emergency cancer surgery come up for tomorrow and that they would need to reschedule to the next available time which was January 16th! We would have had to wait more than two months if the OBGYN hadn’t called this appointment in for us! We hadn’t waited long before we were called back to the examination room. The office manager came in and took down all the information about Della’s treatment history. Then the surgeon came in and examined Della and said she needed to have surgery ASAP and that he believed he could make time this afternoon! We explained to his office manager that we didn’t have insurance and we needed to have at least an idea of the cost. She then went to work cutting prices and making phone calls. It took several minutes and we prayed hard while we waited. I was changing Charlotte’s diaper when she came back and she told us the cost which, praise God, we can pay. It was12:30 when we left the office so we had just enough time to take Charlotte back to mom and dad’s house for Leanna to babysit her. Our appointment was at 1:30 so I didn’t have time for lunch and thankfully Della had not eaten anything since breakfast. If she had she would not have been able to have to surgery for that reason alone. We arrived on time at the Madison Surgery Center and they took Della back for preparation right away. I read four chapters of Acts while I waited and then they called me back. I was able to visit with her for a few minutes and then they sent me back to the Lobby saying that the operation should take about 45 minutes. I read one more chapter of Acts, and then Pat showed up to visit. She asked me exactly what Della was having done and as soon as I opened my mouth they called me back again. The doctor explained that the surgery had gone well and that it was completely necessary. He said that there was a large pocket that the aspiration could not reach. He said that the surgery was a success and that he was confident that she would not need any future surgeries for this! The doctor then left saying that he had another surgery to go to. I was then shown to where Della was waking up. I made some phone calls to let everyone know and found that Grandpa and Grandma were in the waiting room. I was told that Della would need about an hour before she would be ready to leave. That hour went well and Della felt well enough that she said she wanted me to get Zaxby's on the way home. We ate and then Della went straight to bed. Then Leanna continued to watch Charlotte for us while I went to the pharmacy to get some prescriptions filled for Della. We are so overwhelmed at how awesome God is right now! He has taken care of us so greatly! We are also overwhelmed at how I was able to send out a few emails and we were able to have so many people praying for Della during her surgery.

Della, ready for surgery

Della waking up from surgery

11/03/14: Visiting the Doc

Charlotte didn’t sleep much at all again last night…We spent most of the morning resting. My computer finally arrived around lunch time but I didn’t have time to hook it up before it was time to leave. Our appointment today was for the nurse practitioner of the OBGYN. The appointment was made so recently that the OBGYN didn’t have time to see us. When we got there, we explained our situation to the clerk and she told us how much it would cost. The wait was not too long and Della had to spend the whole time filling out papers. Della explained that she had been on three different antibiotics and about the procedure she had had last Thursday to the practitioner. Then the practitioner examined Della and said this was pretty serious and she needed time to think. When she came back she had the OBGYN with her, who was super nice. She explained that the clock was ticking on Della. She recommended that Della have surgery and said Della needed to see the Ultrasound specialist ASAP. So she called downstairs to the Brest Center and they said they could see Della right now and then she said not to worry about the cost! Della spent several hours at the Brest Center and when they aspirated her they found that there was a strong mixture of blood and milk more than pus. I am afraid that the procedure Della had done in El Salvador last Thursday was a mistake. They just do not have the equipment there needed to carefully complete such a procedure. Della’s appointment to see the surgeon is tomorrow at 11:00. Then we went to Encore Furniture to visit mom and get our phones set up. Christina came by and she brought us a gift. The gift was a wet-wipe warmer! We got home at 7:00 and Jim came over around 7:30. Jim shared his wisdom and encouragement and assured us that Central was going to help with the medical and travel expenses. Today went better than we had hoped. We were amazed at God and his provisions for us. Della is still in a lot of pain but we are hopeful.

Me and Charlotte at Encore

Me, Charlotte and my mom at Encore

Our family at Encore

11/02/14: Reunion

Charlotte, despite being exhausted from the travels, didn’t sleep much at all. But Della said that she thought she was well enough to go to church and see everyone. We managed to get there at 9:30 and we went to our old young and marrieds class. The class was packed and everyone was surprised to see us. I said a sentence or two and then Alan taught the class continuing their series on doctrines. We hugged lots of people and shook lots of hands on the way to the main assembly. Then I asked if I could have an opportunity to say a couple of words and they said I could do the Lord’s Supper. For the bread, I talked about the body and how much it has meant to me to have to depend on it and how generous and supporting everyone has been. Then for the wine, I talked a little about the birth of Charlotte. Then for offering, I talked about how there is so much more that we have received from here and there then just money. Rodney then gave the sermon. Afterword we visited with as many as possible and then went to lunch at Newks with a lot of our friends. Della and I were exhausted by the time we got home. After resting for a bit, Bradley picked me up to go over to Jamie’s house to watch The Walking Dead. It felt just like old times. We are overwhelmed to be back and are so happy to see everyone again. Della has felt pretty rough today but we are hopeful that the doctor visits will go well tomorrow.

Charlotte and Dad

Charlotte and Dad with his cool smile

Just about to leave for our first day at church together

In front of Central church of Christ!

11/1/14: Day 243: Travels

We woke up at 4:00 to finish our packing. Mom woke up and cooked a huge breakfast with all the leftovers. Then Fernando, Samuel, and Osvaldo arrived and helped us load our bags. We managed to leave the house pretty close to on time and I said my final goodbye to Fernand. Samuel gave me a gift that had Proverbs 18:24 wood-burned on the back. Then we left and Samuel drove our car while Osvaldo drove a van. I rode in the van with mom, Christina, and Dan and made good time for the getting to the airport. Everything seemed a blur, today and yesterday. We pulled up to the unloading area and got our luggage out but there wasn’t any time to waste because of where they were parked. We got a few last photos in and then they were gone. We had so many bags that we had to get two carts to get them all to the check-in. Everything went smoothly and no one had anything confiscated as we went through security. Thankfully, Della is feeling a good bit better today; I guess she just needed a day to recuperate from the operation she had Thursday. She was able to hold Charlotte while I carried all the carry-on bags throughout the day of travels. I read most of The Great Divorce while I was on the plane and it turned out to be a different book than I thought it would be. After our first flight I witnessed a small group of people that were in great distress for having missed their flight. I was standing in line to check the ticket situation for Charlotte and they were in the same line. They asked if they could cut in front of me and I asked if I could pray for them. Then after our last flight, I noticed the pilot was letting some kids sit in the cockpit now that the plane was landed. We went down to the baggage claim and looked all over for dad because he said that he would be there. Then I realized that he was probably in another area and sure enough there he was, waiting where he thought we would be. It was great to hug dad for the first time in eight months. I showed him where everyone else was and got some pictures of him holding his first granddaughter for the first time. Then we pulled the bags off the line while dad went to get the van. Sure enough, all our bags except for one made it. Apparently it was left in Houston and they said they would deliver it to the house tomorrow. The ride home from Birmingham was long and Charlotte cried most of the way because she was hungry. It was 40 degrees Fahrenheit here which is a good bit colder than we were used to. We arrived at mom and dad’s house around midnight and tried to sleep but Charlotte had a difficult time. I guess she is just as overwhelmed as we are.

Goodbye to Fernando
Goodbye Osvaldo and Samuel
Waiting at the airport in El Salvador
Della and Charlotte in the airplane!
Me, Della, and Charlotte in the airplane!
Home at last!
First time dad got to meet Charlotte

October Report

As with every month here, there is more to write about than I can possibly express. Charlotte is continuing to grow and she is healthy over all; though she not nearly sleeping through the night yet. Della, on the other hand, has had more health troubles. Her infections have continued to grow and cause great pain. We knew it would be best if we could come back early for better medical treatment but I didn’t understand how we could get there. I went out and did studies with Samuel when Della was feeling well enough to spare me. Then Lucky helped me prepare a couple of short lessons in Spanish which I presented when I was out with Samuel. The studies went well and I was encouraged and thankful for the opportunity. Samuel is helping several new Christians through a book called Qué Dice La Biblia so I got my own copy of it and have nearly completed reading it.

On Thursday, the 13th, I experienced the largest earthquake I have ever been in. It lasted about four minutes and caused the doors to swing back and forth and the bed to slide.  Thankfully, it wasn’t too bad. About midway through the month, we had to take our teammate, Lucky, back to the airport. We submitted the request for Charlotte’s passport on our way and then had a goodbye lunch with Lucky. Lucky asked if I could take over leading her ministries of bread and coffee and public reading while she was gone. At the first bread and coffee, I had a minor fender bender but thankfully there was no damage.  Then at the public reading, I managed to read a bit. Thanks to Lucky for patiently teaching me to read Spanish.

But the most happened in the last week of the month. Mom, Della’s mom, Leanna, Christina, and Dan came to visit! Della’s infections continued to worsen and it was decided that she needed to travel back to the States with them for medical treatment. By this point, we had been wrestling with the decision of making our return permanent. Della has been unhealthy since mid-July and there has been another major issue that has led us to the conclusion that it would best to conclude our involvement with the Ataco congregation. When I spoke with our mission committee, who were planning a visit, they encouraged us to come back and get treatment. The week then became a scramble to get everything ready for our departure. We were able to get Charlotte’s passport a day early and get tickets on the same plane as our family. Della had to have an aspiration two days before the flight and it was just enough to make her travels bearable. I made rounds and said many tearful goodbyes; sadly Della was not able to join me. We had been hopeful for the opportunity to say goodbye to the church as a whole on our last Wednesday night but the church was split and we found that there will be no more Wednesday night service for a while.

When we arrived back in the States, we had no insurance and had a major medical issue. But praise be to God, we have been taken care of. We arrived in the wee hours of the morning on Sunday and had a doctor appointment on Monday. The doctor said that it was serious enough that it needed to be aspirated again right away and we needed to see the surgeon the next day. On Tuesday, the surgeon saw us and decided that Della needed to have surgery that day and he removed a pocket of bacteria that he said was the size of an orange. The surgeon believes that no further surgeries will be necessary. The costs were affordable and I am thankful to God for this and the support that we have received.  

This is our final report.


In Christ,
Caleb, Della & Charlotte

10/31/14: Day 242: Last Day

I started the morning by writing a good bye speech that I hope Samuel will read to the church this Sunday. The main thing that has to be done today is to get the legal papers signed to transfer ownerships of the cars. Thankfully, Carlos called and said that he could come up the mountain with the papers so that Della wouldn’t have to go down. When Carlos arrived, we all signed the papers and then went to get copies of them made. While we were out, I enjoyed some valuable alone time with Carlos and I was able to better articulate my good bye. Maritza was at the door when we came back to the house. I told her I was going to go to visit Shucutitan and would see her and her family again soon. Then mom and I went down to Ahuachapán to take Linda (Carlos’ wife) back home and to get some medicine for Della. When we got back, Della was feeling a little better so she decided she wanted to go out with us to for everyone to do last minute gift shopping. We stayed out for about an hour and Della way over did it. She was nearly in tears from the pain as she got back to the house. Thankfully, she was able to rest for the rest of the day but it was a long day for her. At 3:30, Mom and I went to Shucutitan to say more good byes. We were able to see several families but there were many more that we didn’t make it to. Just as it was about dark, I got a call from Ricardo asking to meet up with us so we left Shucutitan. Ricardo and his wife were there at the gas station. We said our final goodbyes and Ricardo pulled out his phone starting showing me all the photos he had taken at the hospital of Charlotte. He had a big smile on his face and was fighting back tears as he flipped each one. Then we went back to the house and little Carlos was there playing Blockus with Leanna. It was dark and we needed to finish our packing so I took Carlos back to his house. We managed to finish packing and get to bed by 10:00; I had been afraid that I was going to have stay up all night.

Goodbye to Edgardo's family

Final goodbye to Ricardo and his wife

Final goodbye to or teammate Carlos and his family

10/30/14: Day 241: Such a Drain

I woke up at 4:00 AM and started getting ready. At 6:05, Dan, Christina, Mom, Leanna, and I left the house to go to the U.S. Embassy to get Charlotte’s passport. We arrived at the Embassy at 8:20 and I pulled over to the curb to jump out and mom took over the driving. It only took me about 5 minutes to get it and I waited outside for mom to return. The guards apparently didn’t like me waiting so close to the Embassy so they kept asking me to move. Mom came back about 15 minutes later with breakfast from Mc Donald’s in hand. Then we drove back to Candelaria de la Frontera to explore a bit more and give the rest of our family the opportunity to see it. Mom and dad may or may not end up working there... but mom wanted everyone to see it none the less. We arrived back home at 11:30. Della said that she was in pain and needed to go to the doctor right now, instead of waiting until tomorrow. So just Della and I got in the car and drove to Sonsonate for the doctor. We ended up waiting a good while to be seen. Then the doctor did an ultra sound and said that Della had around 20 CCs of pus that needed to be drained. The doctor explained that she could pop a needle in and do it quickly with no anesthesia or she could opt to have anesthesia and it would cost a bit more. Della said she wanted the anesthesia but then she waffled a bit because she was afraid it might have a chance of affecting baby Charlotte through the milk. She went ahead with it and they put her completely under for the procedure. I watched and I believe that she made the right decision without a doubt. About midway through the procedure the electricity cut out and they had to use a key ring flashlight for about five minutes! Sure enough they pulled out a good 18 CCs.  Della said that she read on the internet that in the States, if the surface area of the mastitis is more than three cm, it is standard to put a drain in and Della's was about 20 cm! We got home around 5:40 and I took Dan and Christina to get dinner and medicine for Della. The pharmacy didn’t have what we needed and the pizza took like 40 minutes to cook. It started up pouring rain when it was time to go and our visibility was near zero. Thankfully it was only a two minute drive but when we got back to the house some dude in a big truck had decided to ignore our sign and park right in front of the garage door! Leanna said that the pizza was the best she ever had. Then we took turns Skyping with our loved ones back home (including Lucky!). Afterwards, Leanna and I played a very intense game of Dr. Mario and I won! 

Charlotte

Me holding Charlotte

Bunny went to Osvaldo's family

Charlotte holding Charlotte

Charlotte, asleep


10/29/14: Day 240: Tears

Because of Della and Charlotte’s ongoing medical issues, our return to the States will be permanent and this is what made the goodbyes so hard… Charlotte cried hard for four hours before she finally fell asleep last night. We called the U.S. Embassy and they said that Charlotte’s passport had arrived. So we bought return tickets and we managed to get on the same plane as everyone our families! At 10:30, Mom, Christina, Dan, Leanna, and I walked to the cemetery and then to the coffee house. Then the same crew went down to Ahuachapán to transfer the names on the cars. I saw Ricardo on the way and I was able say my good byes. He started crying and I couldn’t help but cry too. We arranged for him and his wife to meet us Friday while we are at the doctors. And Della is yet again, worse today than she was yesterday. We then continued on our way and met Carlos at the lawyer’s office. We found out that mom needed a special ID card to do the transfer of ownership of our car so we went and got one. Everyone waited at Ban Ban while mom managed to get the card. Then we walked to the internet office and we paid out the rest of the contract. Then we grabbed a few groceries and checked the pharmacy for the availability of mom’s medicine. We got back to the house at 2:30 and Osvaldo’s family came over at 3:30.Luz Elena gave us a going away gift and we all cried. Many words were said, prayers were said and we visited for a while. Then Mom, Leanna, and I went back down to Ahuachapán to visit Wendi, Paolo, Fernando, Eva, and Tanya. I gave Paolo Tikal and Della sent some scissors for Wendi. After Fernando prayed, I went around the room and told everyone how much I loved them. I told Paolo thank you for letting me beat him in Tikal so many times and we hugged and cried for a long time. Then Wendi insisted that we stay for dinner and it was delicious. She hand tossed Mom, Leanna and me a giant tortilla.  We ate until we were stuffed and then Della called and said we had some more guests on their way to our house. Everyone said they were going to come up and see Della Friday morning. We saw Edgardo on our way home and I said my good byes to him. César, Eliza and their baby Abigail were waiting for us when we got home. They ate spaghetti with us for dinner and then we Skyped with dad. They are all excited about the work that they will soon be starting.

Me and Leanna at the cemetery

I didn't even know mom had taken this picture! This was not a pose!

Cool butterfly

Goodbye to my brother Ricardo

Saying goodbye to Osvaldo's family 

Gift's from Osvaldo's family

Luz Elena holding unhappy Charlotte

Samuel!

Luz Elena and Osvaldo

Dinner at Wendi's 

Paolo, excited about eating

Wendi cooking

Mom laughing at how big the food she got was

Tanya, Wendi, Me, and Paolo

Leanna and Tanya

César Skyping with dad

Eliza saying goodbye to mom

10/28/14: Day 239: Scouting

Charlotte slept well last night but I was anxious about returning to the States. Dan helped me cook breakfast and we all ate together. Then at 9:45, mom and I went out to meet César and Eliza. They were there waiting on us when we arrived and we explained the situation to them as it now stands. Then we went to their house and met their new baby and family. Samuel was there too so I was able to have some valuable time talking to him. Then we went to a city called Candelaria de la Frontera. There was a good grocery store there and we stopped to talk with the police about security. There is a church there but it only has about 20 people that attend and there are about 22K living in the city. The church there also has no permeant preacher so that might be a good opportunity to work with them. Then we went back to Santa Ana and had lunch at the mall. After lunch we checked out two communities within Santa Ana. When we had finished scouting all the areas that we could we went back to César’s house to drop them off. There we discovered that mom had accidently picked up Della’s phone so that explained why Della hadn’t been answering my calls. Then I showed mom some buildings in Santa Ana that are critical for obtaining residency here. On our way home, we decided to take the scenic route through Los Naranjos. We arrived home about 4:30 and then had dinner as a big family. Then we got on Skype and reported our findings to Dad. The day ended by mom, Leanna, Christina and Dan on a team and I playing a couple of games of Blockus. I won the first and then Christina,s team won the second. 

César, Eliza and Mom

Mom and Abby (César's daughter)